Finding Sisterhood in the Worplace
“Women who understand how powerful they are do not give into envy over meaningless things, instead they fight to maintain the beautiful bond of the sisterhood.” ~ Bindu
In my opinion these are words worth heeding. Recently, a BPRS-NY member joined some of my colleagues and I for lunch. That encounter inspired this post, Sisterhood in the Workplace. What she witnessed was a circle of women who genuinely liked, supported, and encouraged each other. Surprisingly, this is a rare occurrence. So what was different about this group of women and other Sisterhoods in the workplace? What are the qualities necessary for this kind of friendship?
Well, let’s see.
This group consisted of, forgive the broad stereotyping, The Matriarch, The Ingénue, The Space Cadet, and The Type A Over-Achiever. All of the women were in different phases of their lives, one married; one divorced, one engaged, and one happily single. The women were from different ethnic or cultural groups, one African-American, one Latina, one Caucasian, and one of Caribbean-descent. Despite their differences, the connective element of…LOVE exists. Look, I’m a healer so I speak in the language of love and compassion. You’ll get used to it.
There are things we love about each other that connect us, and that love moves us to support, nurture, and root for one another. We help each other fulfill our dreams. We share information. There is no competition in this Sisterhood. When we disagree with each other we talk it out, sometimes loudly, sometimes with tears. After we talk it over, we get over it. We’re adults that way. Yes, we do get sick of each other. Note the understanding, respect, appreciation, and LOVE for one another does not diminish. Why should it? We are all on a journey of self-discovery and self-empowerment. No one does it alone.
If you want a Sisterhood,you have to be that reliable loving Sister. You must give loyalty to receive loyalty. It’s karmic.
Here are ten tips on how to be a great Sister in the workplace.
1. Be a good listener. Offer advice when asked.
2. Never assume negative intent. Not every statement that offended you was intentional.
3. Give compliments and encouragements freely.
4. Admit when you’re wrong or when you don’t understand.
5. Make time for your sisters. Lunch, dinner, grab a drink.
6. Build rapport with your colleagues by being trustworthy.
7. Share information. Trust me, you get nothing with a closed hand. Share.
8. Teach, help, and assist without fanfare. Never embarrass your sister.
9. Have your Sister’s back. There are enough people ready to stab it.
10. Look for things that make you laugh. Laughter is good medicine.
Remember your Sisters mirror aspects of your personality. Your connection to these women reflect the quality of your inner world. Support each other. Treasure each other. Love one another. The success of one woman means the success of all women.
Emily Elyshevitz, CHHC is a Certified Holistic Health Counselor, Intuitive Healer, Reiki Master, and Reconnection Healing Practitioner. She also uses EFT, Jin Shin Jyutsu, and several other energy healing modalities in her practice. Ms. Elyshevitz is a member of the American Association of Drugless Practitioners (AADP) and at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition she studied a diversified approach to achieving and maintaining health with whole foods. Emily studied Reiki at the Reiki Peace Network, Dr. Eric Pearl’s Reconnection with Kelly Woodruff, and she studied the compassionate art of Jin Shin Jyutsu Physio-Philosophy.